What's It Like?

So you’ve heard about the New York Jacks and want to take the plunge by going to your first meeting. You’re kind of nervous and do not know what to expect. Will guys like me? Am I too old, skinny, etc.? If you read what follows, no one will know it is your first time. Read on and we will put your fears to rest.

Mutual masturbation between consenting adults is legal AND safe. Probably the safest sexual activity you can do except for solo J/O. We are a friendly group of guys and we’re all there for the same reason.  You’ll see guys of all ages, body types, sizes, etc. There will be tall, short, hairy, well endowed or not, all races, all ages.  Most guys are gay but we also have men who are straight identified or bi.    We don’t discriminate against physical attributes, only inappropriate behavior.

You don’t need to be a NYJacks member to attend any of our meetings. If you want to become a member, ask an attendant for a membership application at one of our meetings or download an application here. NYJacks members enjoy a reduced admission to meetings.  We suggest that you attend a few of our events to see if you would like to become a member.

We currently have access to our own space that we don't have to share with any other sex clubs so we can control the atmosphere and keep it clean with comfortable seating and appropriate lighting.  The neighborhood is safe.  Pay your money to the guy at the door and walk in. The action starts right away, so pay attention to meeting day and time and don’t be fashionably late or you might miss the fun.  Music and videos will be playing. At Jacks meetings we require street clothes to be checked but you please keep your shoes on. Clothes check is secure so you must check your phone and other valuables with your clothes.  Nudity is the norm although exeptions for underwear have been made when necessary.  When you take your clothes off there is no place to keep your attitude. We do our best to create a friendly and open environment at all our functions and most guys understand that.  Clothes check is free but tips are appreciated.  Water, juice and snacks are available.

When you look around, you’ll notice guys walking around stroking themselves and guys with raging hard-ons. Guys will be walking around or standing. Some guys will be by themselves, with one other guy, or in a middle of a group of guys all jacking each other off. 

The Jacks use unscented Albolene as a lubricant. Albolene is a commercial product available at just about any drugstore and is sold as a make-up remover. Its oil base, but we don’t use rubbers so its safe to use. Its a little bit like Vaseline, but liquefies on contact with warm body parts. You’ll see jars of it located around the room. You’ll also see rolls of paper towels and hot towels next to the washrooms for clean up.  It's a good idea to wash up after you cum or after you have jacked off another guy before you go on to your next conquest.

We insist on consent as the most important aspect to our play.  There is the subtle art of knowing when someone is interested in playing with you. Eye contact and body language and very important. Start by walking up to a guy and making eye contact or standing next to them. You’ll know if they want to play. Tweaking a nipple is a nice way to start. Some guys get turned off if you grab the goodies without knowing if they want to play. If you don’t want to play with someone who has approached you, just say a polite, “No thanks.” and walk away. If they persist, move their hand away gently but firmly and walk away. Most guys are very polite and will know when to leave you alone. No one should make you do anything you don’t want to do.

Mutual stroking is the major action with some nipple sucking and/or kissing if that's what you want. We don't allow penetration of any sort.  You may be with one guy or with a group of guys. When you cum, you can shoot on the floor, between your partners legs onto the floor, on your buddies thigh, etc. If your buddy want you to cum on them they will give you signals, otherwise, shoot on the floor. The Jacks Code of Ethics states “no insertion of anyone’s anything into anywhere, no ass play, no sucking, no fucking”. If you are caught breaking any of these rules you will be escorted out of the club. We are mostly self-policing but there are club monitors to enforce these rules. Five seconds of what you think may be fun for yourself (sucking) could get the club shut down for thousands of guys who attend regularly. We don’t look kindly on those who break the rules.

You will naturally be a little anxious and nervous at first, but you will quickly become accustomed to the group and the action. Just relax and you’ll have a good time. Walking through the door will be the most difficult part, but how difficult is that? No one will force you to do anything and you can leave at any time. You’ll wonder why it took you so long to make your first visit and you’ll be eager to return.

If you have any questions, please contact us.

Peter Palmer